80+ Years of Timeless Advice on Love & Relationships — Laurie Cooper
Modern dating can be fixed, and Laurie Cooper proves it.
Here's a conversation with Laurie Cooper, my podcast guest this week on That One Time with Adam Metwally.
Laurie is a seasoned real estate professional with decades of life experience. She’s helped countless men and women navigate dating and relationships. She believes true companionship, loyalty, and kindness are worth more than any quick fix.
Below are some of the key concepts we explored in the episode:
Discover how friendship first can transform any relationship journey
Learn to recognise red flags early and save yourself long-term heartache
Understand why shared values (and slowing down) can strengthen compatibility
Timestamps:
00:00 Navigating Modern Dating Challenges
03:02 The Importance of Companionship
05:57 Building Strong Relationships
08:59 Friendship as a Foundation
12:06 Recognising Red Flags in Relationships
14:59 The Role of Attraction and Compatibility
20:04 Sexual Liberation vs. Relationship Stability
21:58 Living Together Before Marriage
23:54 The Impact of Religion on Relationships
25:49 The Spark vs. Long-Term Connection
30:01 The Value of Kindness and Loyalty
32:52 Key Lessons and Final Thoughts
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Here’s the full transcript:
Speaker 1 (00:00.566)
Welcome to That One Time with Adam Metwally, the podcast conversing the pillars of health, wealth, art and wisdom for all you holistic hustlers out there. Today, we’re at the beautiful Music For A While studio with Laurie Cooper. Laurie, welcome to the podcast. So Laurie, I want to jump into dating. I know you’ve had a lot of experience in that world. You seem to be helping a lot of women in the city figure things out based on your breadth and depth of life experiences.
Thank you.
Speaker 2 (00:35.586)
Where do you think modern dating is falling apart right now and how can we make it better?
Same thing I say all the time, never changes. Be secure. Get out there. Get off the internet, get off all that stuff and get out there. Go out at night. There’s great guys out there. I meet them and they want to meet women. You just have to be always moving. It makes you feel better. You have to get dressed, go out, socialize.
If a guy doesn’t like you, screw him, move on. He’s missing out on you and you’ll find someone. It clicks. There is that click. I felt that click. I knew it was right. You know it’s right. And you just have to be able to be a little flexible. Nothing’s perfect in life. You’re not perfect. He’s not perfect. Trust me. What’s important is how you feel.
about each other. Do you have that one word friendship? That’s the most important thing, but so great to create something together. Come on, you need somebody. It’s so great to say, I don’t feel well. And they say, really? I just have to listen and be kind and be good because we need you. We need each other. That’s so important. And women, need a guy, believe me. Or if you don’t,
good friends, because sometimes good friends are better than family. So that’s why you have to have community. That’s why I’m doing all this community, because you do need someone that you can talk to. You can’t be alone. small towns you are, who knows? You go there, how do you meet somebody here? There’s so many places to meet.
Speaker 2 (02:32.466)
There’s something I want to dig into with the dating side of things. I find that women now, you know, they work hard, they’re financially successful. A lot of white collar women are doing better than a lot of white collar men in lot of scenarios. Yet those women still want to date up. And that dating pool is getting smaller and smaller and smaller because of that goal to date someone that they feel like is
earning more money than them or doing more than them. So how do you think women and men reconcile that situation in 2025?
It’s difficult. Yeah. I mean, there are those women that are very successful, but they need someone by their side. And so she makes more, what the hell’s the difference? He’s helping her in every which way. She loves him and she backs her up. She backs him up. Money is important. Very. But if she’s the bigger earner, so what?
She could be the bigger earner. Is that the reality, want to share.
people now like that people want to it seems as though that is a seems like a harder thing for a lot of women to actually really accept you know like yeah you think
Speaker 1 (03:55.704)
be by themselves forever. Do you want to be by yourself forever or you want to share? need a man that’s a good person. He’s out there, he’s doing his best, he shares with you, he shares with housework. Sometimes husbands are more involved in bringing up the children than the wife is, but she doesn’t care. She loves him and she needs him at home and it makes her feel good.
that the children have somebody there. It’s how you feel about yourself and your relationship because money is very important, but it’s not everything because being by yourself is miserable. I think if you don’t have anyone sharing it with you, you have all this money and you go home alone at night. don’t know.
Are you two married?
Yes. I know. Well, married a very long time. I lost my husband two years ago, unexpectedly picked up COVID on the plane to Palm beach and passed away in Palm beach. Tragic, handsome, lovely, kind, just a boost always to me, always talked about me and
Marriage again is so important if you’re not well, he’s there. It’s just companionship is everything. So girls, if it’s wrong, move out of it and go keep trying. Never too late. There were women in their 60s find guys, 70s. And again, I say this all the time, younger is better. So if you’re lucky enough to find somebody that’s younger like Cher, I mean, come on.
Speaker 1 (05:45.976)
That’s great. But get out there. Do your thing. I always say love yourself and then someone will love you.
Being secure. So I like to ask this question to people who have been in long and happy, deep relationships and marriages. If you were to look back on that span of that relationship, what kept it together? Yeah. How do you cultivate friendship?
friendship.
Speaker 1 (06:20.974)
Friendship is someone you’re comfortable with, you share things with. If you travel, he loves to travel. If you, whatever you do, you share. And if you’re not sharing, he understands and gives you your space. You give him his space, he gives you your space. And the greatest gift in the world, I’ll say this over and over again, is your children. It’s such a gift to have children, honestly.
I was blessed because you just see things through their eyes and you’re forever young because you’re bringing them up and you see things that’s exciting. You travel with them. The world is so small now. It’s so easy to get around. More people are traveling to Europe than ever because it’s easy now. So, and you experience things with your children that are so awesome.
your friendships with the mothers and the fathers of these children and you share experiences, there’s nothing better. You can make a lot of money and you feel good about making a money and you just don’t have anyone at home. I find that kind of sad. So there are many women just to happy like that, but not really.
Do think they’re, do you think they, yeah, I about to say, do think they’re actually, they don’t know any better? So they’re not necessarily happy. Maybe their life is actually just mediocre.
People have very bad experiences. With what? And they’re bitter. With their relationships. They don’t go anywhere and they get turned off. And they’re just miserable. Always miserable. I meet them all the time. They’re just unhappy and they have to see you unhappy and they hate to see happiness. But I look at elderly people in the street of my neighborhood holding hands. I mean, husband’s not well and she’s walking with him. I mean,
Speaker 1 (08:23.96)
Come on girls, there’s nothing better than having that person that thinks about you, cares about you. It’s worth more than money. Yes, you have to have money to pay the bills, that’s for sure. But, friendship’s everything, really. Whether it’s your girlfriend or a guy, you just gotta keep going and that’s what enriches your life.
Yeah, so on the relationship side of things, you’ve got friendship as a core pillar to keeping it strong. What else is there?
You work off of each other. You learn things from each other. It’s conversation you have. Come up with things to do to get there. Maybe play golf, tennis. Do something that you’re both interested in. You get other friends that like the same things. You have to have friendships outside of the two of you because you benefit from that. You share their experiences with each other.
Get out there, always go out, hang out at a bar. You meet other people there. People love to talk. I always talk to people, hello. Everybody responds to me. They all wanna talk. Everybody loves to chat away. And it’s that kind of vibe that keeps you going. So important to have interesting things every day. Think of something interesting to do.
Go to a museum, walk around the museum. It’s so great. Art gallery, go to art gallery openings, walk the streets, have a cup of coffee, sit down, talk to somebody next to you in one of these cafes. They’re on their computer and they want to talk to you also. Trust me, they’re there to meet people as well.
Speaker 2 (10:17.934)
I like working from cafes and half of the time
You never know sitting next to you, it could be your pochette as they say. Meant to be.
Well, on that note, actually, I’ve got an interesting story. I work from a cafe. I work from a cafe in Lower East Side most days. And I met an Australian guy who’s probably in his mid-50s. We just started talking. We got along. And it turns out he’s the manager for some band members for one of Australia’s biggest bands. similar to like the Eagles, that level, really, really big Australian band.
And we hung out for a few hours and he ended up getting one of the band members to come on the podcast. It’s been one of our best episodes we’ve done. Out of nowhere. Just a random conversation. Made a friend.
people. You never know what situation you’re going to get into by meeting people. Could make you a millions, could make you whatever. You just got to be out there, talk to people, socialize. You got to get out. can’t stay home, get you nothing. Believe me, comfy, warm. Who cares? It’s raining out, snowing out. That’s the greatest thing about New York City.
Speaker 1 (11:38.36)
When you’re in the country, you don’t go out, you stay home. You gotta get in your car to go anywhere. Here you just walk and you get somewhere.
Yeah, okay. So before we wrap up on the relationship thing, was there anything else that you think was another pillar that was very critical to having a long and successful and beautiful marriage with children and such a level of respect that you have for your partner?
If you ever fight, don’t tell your friends. Go in the other room, scream, yell, pound the wall. Don’t tell your friends. Guess what? He’s forgotten about it. And you’ll forget about it. They never forget about it. So, I mean, you’re going to have arguments. It’s two people with different personalities. understand, he has to understand you and you have to understand him. There’s going to be those times.
But think of the good things about this relationship. I mean, it gives you comfort. It gives you a good feeling. Of course you’re going to not be happy all the time. Nobody’s happy all the time. It’s impossible. And it’s impossible to be perfect. No one’s perfect, but learn and learn to listen. I always say, listen, don’t talk, listen and control your temper. Don’t ever go to bed angry.
Really? You heard that a hundred times. It’s so true. Yes, it’s a very valid thing. So you’re gonna hate each other someday. You’re gonna love each other. Yeah. Get over it. This is life. Yeah. The good makes up for everything else. me, the good times are there.
Speaker 2 (13:08.684)
Yeah, it’s a valid thing.
Speaker 2 (13:23.95)
How do you know? I feel like people run away too easy these days. know, people run away from relationships. They run away the moment things get difficult. They have this opinion that, oh, I can find someone new very quickly. But you can. So when do you know?
If you’re miserable, that’s it. Don’t hang on. And if he’s not appreciating you the way he should get rid of him, you got to be appreciated. He’s got to think a lot of you. He’s got to be considerate. If he’s not considerate, I mean, what good is it? That’s how life is. You got to have someone that thinks about you and gets you through the day with a smile, sense of humor.
If you don’t have it and he criticizes you and he makes you feel small, that’s horrible. I don’t want that guy. I got to think a lot of myself. I want him to love me for me, but be kind and nice and you get it back in return tenfold. But if you see it’s going nowhere, why are you there? Don’t be afraid. Take that plunge.
You never know who’s waiting for you. It could be a year from now, two years from now, six months. Keep trying. And when you’re young, you can make mistakes all the time. You have another year, another day.
When you’re young, what’s the point where maybe you’re not so young anymore? What age? When you think, oh, maybe I need a...
Speaker 1 (14:59.626)
every age you can find somebody. Just go out there, walk around, go to galleries, go out and meet people. There’s always that hope you’re going to meet somebody because there’s a bunch of people out there just like you, know, or you can wait till the wife dies and then, you know, put a gift basket under his door and invite him in for dinner. I mean, could do that too.
that’s funny. mean, yeah.
read the opits
I’m now getting to the point, you I’m in my early thirties where there’s some of my friends got married and now some of my friends are starting to get divorced.
Well, happens. And then you say, well, listen, you can use that as a great excuse. So many divorce guys out there, but you might be the lucky one. And those divorce guys, what happens is some people get really full of themselves. Really? Yes. Sometimes women are so spoiled that they think, you know, he’s out working so hard. He’s never home. I’m not happy with that.
Speaker 1 (16:08.494)
because he’s working too many hours and you go and have an affair and you know what? That affair turns to nothing and your husband sees what you’re doing. He finds himself some other girl and you’re with nobody. How stupid you were. Appreciate what your husband’s doing. If he’s working long hours, it’s working for you. I don’t understand these women that complain and they end up
having an affair with the tennis pro. I mean, it’s so crazy. What are you doing? You’re so lucky. making money for you. Honestly. This working hard. What the hell you think so much of yourself. Get out. There’s a lot of beautiful girls out there. I go to these bars. I can’t get over how many beautiful girls are hungry for guys. Honestly.
Is there a specific story?
Yeah.
Speaker 1 (17:01.006)
Hey, you better grab when you’re young girls. Don’t wait too long. Don’t go into your 30s and 40s.
What’s what’s kind of the point where you just got a
You expose yourself. You’re bound to meet someone. You just have to overlook certain things. Family life is great. Yeah. Important. Yeah. See how their families, okay. Okay. With themselves. Okay. You see the fathers, the mothers, what they do for a living, how they interact, how you were brought up, who your friends are. Yeah. That’s so important. Yeah. Friendships.
How they treat their family.
Speaker 1 (17:38.774)
Let’s see who your friends are. That’s the key to everything.
Well, let’s talk about red flags real quick. So if you’re looking, you’re in the dating pool, you’re looking for a man near at Rocco’s for context Rocco’s is a sports bar in New York owned by a friend of mine, but that we.
He lies, he cheats on you, he doesn’t respond to your emails, flag, don’t keep going with him. If he’s not hot to strut, get rid of him and don’t go to bed with him the first night, girls, big mistake you make. So keep it all exciting, for a moment at least.
Yeah. Yeah. So what do you think the ideal time is to sleep?
You’ll be a great mate for someone because you’re kind and you’re looking why, what you should do. So you’re a good guy that’s out there in your early thirties and you want to find someone. get it. There’s someone for you. Girls, this is an example. He’s great. I know I can tell he’s kind. No kind, sweet.
Speaker 1 (18:44.01)
is so important sense of humor and he’s willing to try again and again he’s gonna find it I know he will someone’s gonna appreciate his sweetness who cares what they look like it’s a good looking who cares it just gotta be nice looking
Good, but you’re not gonna... What do you mean?
That’s all that counts. Pleasant. Because they all get old, they look horrible after a certain age. Then they look at the woman and they say, she looks great. Yeah, because she’s got a great husband. Who cares what he looks like? If he looks too good, believe me, you got problems.
So you want to look for a man who’s good looking but not too good looking.
Sometimes you’re lucky, he’s got it all in one package. But then you gotta be really on your toes. That’s a tough guy to keep, believe me. And he’s full of himself, that’s the worst kind. And if he’s a narcissist, if he’s just full of himself and doesn’t hear you, doesn’t compliment you, you compliment him, but don’t always be there. Let him be there for you too. Again, don’t be an easy person to...
Speaker 1 (20:04.76)
whatever you want, do your own thing. Don’t let him boss you around because then he loses interest in you. Right. It’s wrong. out, put a challenge every day. It’s fun. Challenging is fun. Yeah. Because you know what? Everybody wants what they can’t have. That’s the way it goes. was in my time, isn’t it? Everybody, hundreds of years ago, what you can have, you don’t want. You always think, you know, it’s too easy. You got to have a little challenge.
So keep the chase.
Speaker 2 (20:34.73)
So let’s talk before we wrap up, let’s talk about the you mentioned don’t sleep with somebody on the first date. There’s a lot of sexual liberation. It’s viewed as a potential positive thing in the world these days, but it sounds like slowing down is a better long term approach.
control. When you’re in control in the beginning you’re better off. Why would you give it all away right away? He doesn’t call you. He’ll never call you again. But if you have him out there for a while, he gets to know you, he might continue. You just can’t jump into bed with someone. This is crazy. Yeah. Why? I mean just hold off. That’s all I say. What do
do think the sweet spot is to not sleeping with somebody when you meet them?
You just don’t!
Ever. Like how long?
Speaker 1 (21:32.59)
You wait. You know, you’ll feel it. For, it could be a month. Believe me, they’ll keep coming back. And let me tell you, sex is great, but when you’re older, you forget about it. You’re more interested in the person themselves. Hot to trot to bed, control yourself. Please. Why give it all away at once?
month.
Speaker 2 (21:58.168)
OK, OK. So I’d love to chat through a couple of general philosophical things before we wrap up. What’s the biggest thing over the last two years you’ve changed your mind on?
There was a time that I didn’t think girls of a certain age should have sex. But now I see it’s a little different. Things are different. do mean? Young people are together. They meet in college. It’s going to happen. my fooling. It is going to happen. So I have to understand that. So you have to also understand that
It’s a very different world than it was years ago. They do live with one another. I just believe in that, but now they are living with one another. And maybe that’s a good thing.
think that’s a
Speaker 2 (22:53.9)
Is it potentially worse off for the long term relationship living with somebody before you really are married and potentially married to them?
I think you don’t live with someone just to live with someone. You have to live with someone when you want to share things together, when you feel good about it. Just to live with someone and he’s not that great. Why? It’s a waste of your time. Make sure you’re right for each other, a little bit at least. That you have the same goals. Goals are very important. Find out all his goals, he’ll find out your goals.
I’m
Speaker 1 (23:29.688)
And then you live with him, sometimes you just can’t stand him. So you gotta move out. Then you’re gonna move in with someone, another someone. Take that at a really, do pace that. Don’t quickly jump into that relationship, honestly. I think you gotta stay on your own and date them for a while.
Are you religious by any chance? you have any like?
I believe I’m a practicing Jew. I love my religion. I believe very strongly in my religion. I feel for my people. I was brought up that way. It makes me feel good. I do what makes me feel good. I light Shabbat candles. I feel good about that. I would never marry out of my religion. I don’t want my children or grandchildren. It’s a tough thing to do.
I think backgrounds that are similar are very important. I believe it’s a good feeling that there is a God. I talk to him all the time. So I walk with him. I feel good about it. That’s what religion is all about.
I know in the Christian religion that the idea is that you would not live together until you’re married. Is that the same in Judaism? Is that like a...
Speaker 1 (24:50.28)
No, it’s very different than it used to be. There’s no such thing as not to that. That’s nothing to do with it. You know, but there was, and still may be happening, there are those Jews that believe in matchups. You know how great that was? Just think about this. The guy knows all about you from your family. The girl knows, I mean, you just know each other from...
Yeah, right.
Speaker 1 (25:17.964)
backgrounds are similar and they, and these two are put together. you know, I think he’s right for you. I think you should meet him and you know what? It sometimes works. feel like the matchups like gentle. Yeah, it’s true. He’s from this background. You’re from this background. I think you’re going to work out together and you know what? It does work out.
Yeah
Speaker 1 (25:47.106)
Because similar backgrounds are very important.
So you mentioned right at the start that you need to have that spark, you need to feel that click. Now, if you’re not, you know, let’s just say a lot of these relationships, these arranged relationships and arranged marriages that have a lot of stories of people sticking together for 50, 60 plus years. Would you say that there was no physical attraction there or they got lucky or that attraction can build?
attraction builds. If the person is a good person and you have all of it, it’s just, you just learn to love that person. If wrong, it’s a horrible thing. And it’s hard to get out of, but you got to be careful. You got to be lucky. You got to be lucky, know who you are. And that mate has to be a good person. If he’s not a good person,
So you think it’s bullshit?
Speaker 1 (26:44.63)
No matter what it takes you get out of it. Please, you can’t ruin your life. You live once. I mean, you want to live it right once.
Yeah, so.
With attraction building then...
Is there a use for a spark in the relationship? So this is where I get kind of stuck. You hear and see scenarios where attraction builds, people grow into one another, things change, things develop. Yet, especially in a city like New York, people are looking for that crazy, hot, intense spark. Otherwise, they just have no interest. And it seems as though those people that have that initial spark are usually kind of nuts.
You what? That’s so stupid because there were guys I dated that were not attractive. And I said, Oh, I’m not interested, but whatever reasons I dated them for a while. Guess what? They became incredible. You’ve got to give someone a chance. That spark is not immediate. And this is the mistake girls make. If it’s a good guy, good girl, try them for a while. Don’t just discard them.
Speaker 2 (27:54.326)
Test test test
know because people grow on you and sometimes the big quick flash in the pants is a waste of your time. Yeah. And you just, you get miserable and you get burned off and you really want to take a break.
So what’s the kindest thing someone’s ever done for you? have a story around the kindest thing somebody’s done for you?
There are some people that have been so loyal and so wonderful that they make me feel good. There are some good people out there. There are some people that are so good inside and they make me feel good because guess what? They appreciate me. then real estate should always get appreciated. But there are those loyal people that stayed with me that made me feel great.
and understood what I did for them. And it just is very rewarding.
Speaker 2 (28:58.494)
What’s an example of that? What’s a story that you could share around something kind?
There are those people that when I was independent broker who gave me their listing because they were so happy with what they purchased and their friends would say, no, go to a big company. Don’t use Lori. They said, no, I’m using Lori. And guess what? Lori sold it in one day, two days. So confidence in me, that’s the important thing that I really relish.
and appreciate because I appreciate people that appreciate me. I put my heart and soul into matchups with real estate and people. I just feel good that they know I’m spending time. Time is valuable. Sometimes you spend so much time and they don’t even appreciate it. They don’t even say thank you. That’s like the worst person in the world. Do you know what you go through to put listings together?
You can spend days doing it, days, hours, and they don’t appreciate it, or they cancel on you at the last minute, or they just don’t respond. And they’re all for it, and then they turn their back. That’s not the person I want to know. And I’ve made so many friendships, so much. There are good people out there that appreciate what you do, but we’ve come, we’ve come.
to a point in life where people are very selfish and self-orientated, very different than it was years ago. Because people, you went by their word. Mine was always my word. My parents, by their word. I didn’t know what a lie was. And I hate people that lie because I say it, I mean it. I never lie. I didn’t even know what it is to lie. Of course you sometimes lie to your friend. I mean, you say,
Speaker 2 (30:33.688)
What do you think’s ch-
Speaker 1 (30:55.342)
Does she say she looks great? You to say she looks great? We really don’t think so. But there’s certain lies you have to say that you can understand, but I hate a person I can’t trust. And there were so many people that are two-faced. It a talent to know who’s, it’s a tough world. It’s tougher than ever. People are stupid. I think people are so dumb. They believe people what they say. And I know what they’re listening to and what they’re hearing is not.
What do you think’s change?
Speaker 1 (31:25.038)
to be believed and they do because people are weak. They want to hear things, they want to believe it because they don’t want to think. You got to think, hear what you hear, understand, examine it before you make a move.
Yeah, be thoughtful for sure. So, so with the kindness of people of experience with you, how has that impacted the way that now you show up for other people?
good person. Honestly, I don’t see many people like me. Honestly, I hate to be bragging about myself, but I have to live with myself. And I was brought up that way. It’s your background. I’m just a good person. I appreciate good people. And time is short, whatever age, you just got to do the best you can. You have to live with yourself. I can sleep at night.
I do the best I can and I feel good about myself and that’s all that counts. My family’s first and foremost. I just do the best I can for my friendships. I value good people. There’s not that many. Honestly, so many disgusting people, self-motivated, braggarts, not sure of themselves. They take it out on you, they’re miserable.
They take stories to you. Always remember that they’ll take stories from you. This is the truth. I don’t want to gossip. I gossiped when I was young. I don’t believe in that now. Let people do whatever they want. I don’t care. And they don’t care about you. But you have to live with who you are. And when you live with who you are,
Speaker 1 (33:14.52)
You have your confidence that way.
So wrapping up, what’s a key lesson you’d hope everybody takes away from this conversation?
They believe in me and my advice. You can’t make it up. You can’t have a brave front. So many people are full of shit. I am not. And that’s what you get from me. It’s just who I am. It’s the way I was and how I am right now. And if I give you advice or give you my feelings and my thoughts, heed them.
They’re real and from my heart. And that’s why I do what I do. I just know I’m right. I’ve had the experience. I’ve been there. I’ve done it. I’ve seen it. I see so much. You could write books on all I’ve seen about people. And you know what? In the end,
You just have to believe in someone and you hope everyone’s not that way. they’re just, they are who they are, but I believe in myself. And I think any advice I give you girls, guys, heed it. I’m right.
Speaker 2 (34:36.398)
Okay, so is there anything you’re excited about that you would like to let the listeners in on as we wrap up?
You know, when you get interviewed, it’s, it’s interesting. A lot of you is in the interview and the guy that’s interviewing you is going to put a lot of himself into it because he wants answers himself. Everybody wants answers. Everybody’s looking for what’s right. What’s wrong. They all want to an opinion. want an honest opinion. Everybody’s always confused. He’s black and white.
Go afterwards real. Be real.
Yeah, so what am I looking for?
You’re looking for a nice girl that appreciates you, doesn’t want to find a millionaire because you’re not. And you’re just a worker that’s striving to make a living, doing your thing, loving New York, wanting to be in the midst of all, in the middle of all this. You want to find someone to share things with. I see that. Because you’re a good guy. I know good people.
Speaker 2 (35:40.034)
Wait, you don’t think I’m a
Speaker 2 (35:44.43)
You don’t think I’m a millionaire? I don’t give off millionaire energy.
No.
Perfect. That’s where I want to stay.
Anyways, millions is not everything.
It helps. It helps. Yeah. Yeah. Well, give me another five years in this city and we’ll see.
Speaker 1 (36:04.448)
You’ll see, you’ll make it. You’ll build it up. Look at this, you’re doing all this. This could be a living for you because you’re a good person and you’re interested in other people. That’s a good sign. You want to hear about them. You want to hear about their life. You want to hear what motivates them. So you like to question people. I love to question people. I learn a lot about them. I learn about life. There’s so many different lives out there. But you gotta...
Be happy with what you have. This is the whole key to success. Be happy with what you have. Are you happy? And never be jealous. I hate jealousy. I hate liars. I hate jealous people. And I people that talk behind your back. Nothing worse than that. I hate that person. I see it all the time. So never tell them too much because then they’ll use it against you.
Would you say you’re happy right now?
I appreciate everything. I appreciate every day. I appreciate all I have. That’s great. Every day I say, thank you God. Yeah. And I’m going to end with that.
Yeah, great. Awesome. Well, thank you. And if you’ve enjoyed this episode, please head to YouTube, search that one time with Adam Metwally, click subscribe, like the video and leave us a comment. Until next time.
